Thursday, October 13, 2011

Memory Issues

I am sure that my generation and the next is in grave danger of losing the memory capacity of our brain due to digital revolution. This trend will set a change in human evolution also in coming years. Even some generations before me who are hooked to the tech will be facing this problem. Recently my grandfather expired and I went back into the lane of old memories remembering everything. One of the things I remembered was the first phone in our house. And then I suddenly realized that I knew so many numbers by heart which I still remember, yet today I only know around 4-5 numbers by heart. I have become slave to technology like many others and I need to revive it. Because I am not still the next generation human form which has given less importance to memory and more to intelligence. I can still create a balance and rely on my own brain to remember things, yet it can be a hard task considering the years I spent being dependent.

When I tried to analyze things around, the huge collection of books that increased… and mainly the digital media I understood I am in a mess. How the hell am I supposed to know which song is in which DVD or which DVD is in which folder? It is impossible to actually remember digital media contents where you have over 1000 dvds. I sat down meditated and rest of the time concentrated on this same topic. How could I start reviving my memory capabilities and here are some simple solutions I came up with.

  1. Memorize 2 important numbers from your cellphone phonebook everyday and try to remember them as days pass with your new memorized numbers. 
  2. Don’t use bookmarks in your books. 
  3.  Do not use the save login and password information in your browser no matter how many accounts you have on whatever websites. 
  4.  Stop looking at your GPS screens when you go on known routes. 
  5.  Try to memorize the names of roads, squares and important landmarks in your city every time you pass them. 
  6.  Keep a thing that you use regularly and keep at a particular place at some different location, try to find it the next day. 
  7.  Visit memory test and exercises sites on the web. 
  8.  If you are a religious persons try to memorize some paragraphs/mantras/shlokas/teachings. If you are not then try to memorize your favorite songs!

I hope you understand the importance of keeping the memory part of your brain alive n’ active, and also hope that this blog helps you to achieve that!


Thursday, June 2, 2011

Celestial Errors

Mythology, religion, fables, gossip and even science has played a huge role over the years  in the minds of normal and weird people, about the strange happenings around which we term as UNREAL. These UNREAL happenings can be named as ghosts , healings, vibrations, miracles and so on. Science has been the slowest to accept and grasp these happenings. It took a long while for science to transit from a flat world to round, then now reaching more insights of a shapeless rock which is just appearing round due to the 70% water covering that strange lump. Thankfully with a new dimensions popping up in theories like the M-Theory (an extension to string theory) in Physics, scientists are eventually getting convinced about so many other forces acting upon us other than gravity and other conventionally accepted ones. Till science takes time solving this puzzle in scientific terms, people & beings open to experience will have their miracles and pack off. 

Some scientists probably those who are pursuing string theory have apparently admitted that these experiences  are often due to the errors in this whole universal system. They are like loopholes where a place in certain part of time gets distorted or tweaked causing unexplainable phenomena. Others added that it was unexplainable because its beyond our sensory perceptions of a 3D world. Mythology and religions have always told these happenings as conscious efforts by some entity living as we see it or living as we don’t see it. Their view of such phenomena is based on the foundation of their own myth or religious foundations. In todays  world there are people who blindly believe in these kind of phenomena and others who simply ignore it as they would ignore a poor beggar dying on the roadside. This all commonly meets at a point of acceptance from all views if its studied and discussed properly. Scientifically, normally, supernaturally, unconsciously or not in any specific way, we all believe in what we have always termed as "The Sixth Sense". 

Is sixth sense a sense that is able to cope up with all the new dimensions apart from space and time that science has come up with, or is it the only one of the many senses we aren't yet aware of. It can also be that we are aware of the multiple senses beyond our normal five, but then we are terming them all collectively under the mercy of the sixth sense. The desire to see and accept things often ends up being criticized by the busy stereotypes who are happy with their terms of busyness in life. The shallow thoughts of material world and the ignorance of their own experiences no matter how real, deprives such beings from enjoying and exploring that part of life which millions of wise humans did before the advent of material knowledge. Wisdom and knowledge hence have created a large drift in between believers of any kind. Wisdom goes hand in hand with intelligence, it cannot be created or increased in any person. You can have exercises for memory, but you cannot increase the intellectual capacity of a person. Whenever we see intellectual development apart from the natural evolvement that comes with aging, its generally only enhancement and the right use of what is existing in its given limits.  Wisdom similarly has no takers or enhancing methods because it is inbuilt, it also has no scientific reason to support its existence.  The Sixth Sense lies on neither of the sides. Its rather very much alive and kicking but enhances with acceptance.  

These healings, ghosts, spirits or any miracles are not happenings that can be or should be categorized. A healer, saint, sage or self-realized person would call it a conscious effort where they make things happen by alternating matter. They make these changes controlling the energies that matter is subjected to, the energies that make the matter have the properties which makes it identifiable in this 3D world.  Scientists or people following string theory are aware of the concept that matter gets is properties due to the frequency of the vibrating strings that it is made of. For people unaware about this part of science - "Strings are far smaller than atomic world we know (protons, neutrons, etc.) the vibration (frequency) of these strings hence create matter. The theory of a parallel universe also suggests that we (our universe) is existing in multiple projections at the same time, in short we are one of the projections. M Theory further elaborates these universes / fabrics (Rather known as branes scientifically) are seperated by fraction of a millimeter." This theory inshort is very close to the multiple projects or avatars that saints and gods might have shown us, if religion and myths are to be believed. The closest this gets to is spiritual experiences in todays world which can be as scary as a ghost or as miraculous as a healing.  

Great yogis always referred to changing atomic structures of matter when they induced healings, initiated their disciples or read the inner being. Tomorrow's new age yogi's might use changes in the frequency of strings, as their representation of miracles. The effect of their efforts will vary from a man following them or loathing them. If in this age faith is making man equate monetary offerings to gods into their desired results, then their faith will also decide the direction and time for them to reach their desired goal. Maybe monetary offerings are helping them get material results but not necessary the results concerning their questions about matter that no science or knowledge could answer. The quest for the enhancement of the sixth sense shouldn't be considered as a spiritual or religious approach by non-believers. Even atheists could simply try to reason themselves about existence of everything. Science cannot be trusted beyond a certain span of time because the earth changed its shape and gravitation ended up being one of the 17 forces acting on us. There will be a lot more time till it comes in terms with the unexplainable, let it get the earths shape right first. Science surely helps us in healing or understanding the limited world, problems and creations that we are aware of, but what about those whose answers are already written in ancient scriptures or experiences of the wise?  

The awareness and evolvement of our mind/spirit should be considered more and more important in todays fast moving world. Use religion, philosophy, fables or your own experiences to question, reason and enhance your awareness of existence will surely be the key.  If not, one can just blame all this on science's limitations or a Celestial error.... till they want to understand it!

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Friday, May 27, 2011

The Knowledge of Pain

Three recent incidents gave me an insight of something what nature/god gave us but what we turned into a complication that multiplies itself due to our ability of thinking and learning. 

In the first incident I met a very great person. Great in his achievements and spiritual status. He is one of those few people who has been in touch with me for  quite many years no matter where he was in his material status. We always discussed life, spirituality, religion and a lot more things. He is middle-aged and has seen a lot of success in life and not many failures after that.  He was crippled by accidents and ill-health right from his younger years but his management covered this fact well so that people wont it.  As time passed by his ailments increased and the pain resulted in frequent hospitalizations and complications that never seemed to decrease. In our recent conversations we discussed more about his health that his career leading him to question me something painful but straightforward "How long was he going to live?" . The question baffled me not because of its essence but mainly due to the stage of fearlessness he always had reached due to the uncertainty of his ever-worsening health. He never feared death nor loved life much but he has always expressed his urge to finish his work and leave a mark behind unlike a happiness that a normal person would seek in material sense. I asked him the reason for suddenly asking me such a question. Despite being of a positive person always I wanted to know what made him think of the remains of his life suddenly! He said that he had been through a rigorous routine of consulting doctors within the country and outside India to know the source of his medical complications. After some positive talk and discussions the depressing thought was dampened and in the next meetings he didn't discuss life or death. 

In the second incident there was this person who everyone knew was on his deathbed, but he had been there many times... so he had hopes. He wanted healings apart from the medical support system he was already under. Since he had been under this condition many times before he was sure of getting cured again and get back to his work, earn more money and leave more property for his family. He was known for his practicality and shrewdness in life. Apparently he would never make a decision or analysis that was only based on emotions or faith but I always used to think that he asked for healings to feel positivity more than the healing energies. Whenever I heal, I have never healed to cure. I have rather healed to enhance the souls wish to lead the path it has chosen. This time I received a message from him that he had enough of treatment and wished to leave his mortal self. He died 2 hours after the healing commenced without any pain or suffering. I visited the hospital to pay condolonces as I had to leave for some other work later and I saw this third incident where a baby who was badly injured on head was been taken inside for treatment. It was crying and screaming due to the pain but emerged smiling with a bandaged head trying to respond to playful relatives. 

I couldn't stop thinking of what I had seen this short span. My memories of various accidents I had seen and experienced started flashing in front of me. I started wondering if I would be a confused person on deathbed or as I am. I wondered if people whom I respect or follow for their acceptance of life would be the same when they were closer to death. Would they be strong enough to endure or anticipation of whatever experience death brings? It is scientific and natural that a body goes into a state of painlessness if there is really a state of pain that goes beyond our endurance limits. It’s a lift saving mechanism triggered by our brain so that adverse body reactions due to pain don’t result in a death which might not be  the only way in that moment. Be is accident or disease when we are in pain many people faint or go into a coma. Sometimes his painless state is also induced by doctors using painkillers on treatments as simple as a tooth-removal procedure to a complicated surgery. So for sure all this had to do with some kind of pain. But is it really the physical pain that shatters our decisions or beliefs, or is it something else? 

I feel that knowing the reason of our pain is more frightening or painful than the pain itself. A child will fall down a staircase and still be smiling after an hour. An animal who is a victim of an accident might limp and heal its wounds with time and natural instincts. But if the same thing happens to an over-thinking adult person, there is a lot of fear, worry and anxiety which leads to more pain and collapse of our system. Its our knowledge of the wound, health or disease that makes us think a lot. We start to anticipate conditions that that might not be there at all, but we start imagining things and start following a certain pattern of diagnosis psychologically leading to an entire different set of problems. Our limited knowledge about our condition exceeds the ignorance about that problem in the state of panic. this leads us to taking advises from more doctors and well-wishers. The time we should spend in resting and getting healed is rather burnt in the flames of anxiety and fear. This waste of energy and time cripples us more, complicating the problem. Not to mention that the negative thought actually leads us to the problem we never were in. 
All this doesn't mean that we shouldn't go through a good clinical diagnosis, treatment and our own analysis to decide the procedure for cure. But certainly we shouldn't confuse ourselves with too many advices nor on the knowledge that is not complete. What is required is such is case is mainly to decide about the path you want to take. Its better to decide on two paths instead of multiple ones because ideally any number of choices always boils down to two choices at its final stage. 

Overcoming the fear of that unknown experience of death is something we all have to endure, but this wont be achieved unless we are consciousness about who we are and have been and what we want from life. The path to Moksha or Nirvana has these small steps at the end of each life we live, where we should be fearless and accepting to realize that death is not about anticipation its only about a happening which we have to go through without our choice. The pain of going through life or death will surely be minimized if we think less about  the pain the both endure, and find out ways to ignore that pain to move on.  

Thursday, May 5, 2011

Relational Distortion

Lately I have been reading a lot of music recording, arranging and mastering stuff apart, from the regular photography and editing. There is an exceptional relativity that I found in between not just in the technicalities of these two arts, but also in real life. 

Everyone who is aware of digital photographs generally is aware that when we zoom the pictures we reach a level where we start seeing pixels (squares) in the image. This distortion happens due to excess dissection of the image beyond its normal resolution capacity. High-end softwares and hardwares even enable us to zoom this single pixel further which then again appears as a resolution of small dots which appear more like grain/noise than a square pixel. Even at pixel size level one cannot judge a picture forget about imagining anything at such a nano level.

In sound engineering or recording there is a similar technique to get into the details of a waveform by amplifying the certain part of the wave and getting into it. When we amplify that detail we reach to a level of finer tuning that we are looking for. At the same time the sound starts getting distorted just like the pixels in a photograph. If the waveform was to be represented in pixelated form like a digital image we would end up finding the same result as we would find in an image of finally reaching to details where we see nothing but grains.

Taking the above examples we can imagine that the images whether good or bad photographically can be judged better as a whole picture when seen from far. We can also see the color tones well which are good enough for the limited capability of the eyes. I think similar logic applies to a relation or a person we try to judge. No matter how much you love or hate a person, the more you will try to study that person the more unclear and distorted the whole judgement will become. Its like looking at a beautiful woman and admiring her from far, and then suddenly getting close to her skin to see if its as flawless as it appears from far… it won’t be or it might be more than it should be. 

Realistic approach in maintaining relations and judgements about people is very important. This realistic approach lies in the understanding of the distance we choose to keep from that person and the importance we give to that relation. If we try to dissect and investigate everything in detail nothing will seem perfect. Like I always say… there would be no importance for peace if there was no evil around. The same way expecting a relation or a person to be flawless is stupidity. Yes you can analyze or study a case from a distance if there is any problem occurring, but for the right analysis and results you will have to maintain a distance and see that you don’t get too close. So close that you will blur your own vision! 

Thursday, April 14, 2011

Incredibly Networked

Today I was sitting down wondering what to do from tomorrow. Well for some reason the co-incidence was that it is a kind of a new year for us. A festival called Gudi Padwa. I said why not think about a work reform seriously. The first thing I decided was to cut down my computer usage when I am not needed around it. My applications and workload always takes of itself with automated queues and stuff. I have been using the computer mouse more than the keyboard for editing pictures more than music almost 12 hours in a day. Its started to give signs of wear and tear including an extra skin padding that has appeared on the wrist where the hand touches the desk. It aches very badly quite often, especially when I sleep. I don't realize any pain, cold, sweat, etc. when I work. The first step I decided for cutting down computer use was to go the traditional information highway of reading books. I cannot sit and gossip more than once a week and for more than a few minutes. My brain needs munching and thinking which will not just make sense but will help me and to help others in future. Being obsessed with my own work I couldn't digest the idea too well. I am reading a book atleast for an hour everyday since a year, and a lot more information on the internet but then I have to stay away from the computer and still read... err a book. 

Well ok. I thought lets start with reading about a bit of sound engineering and mixing. A huge part of my spirit and mind would accept this knowing that this will be helpful in very near future. Ofcourse I have done a lot of reading with online help documents, pdfs and forums but lets start with a book I thought to myself. Now since I have bought some official recording and mixing softwares I got free guides with them in PDF format. Printing 600 pages of stuff wouldn't be a good idea. I always remember forever whatever I read so those 600 pages would be waste for the environment as well as considering non-reuse. Finding the PDF burnt on some DVD amongst thousands of DVDs didn't seemed a bad idea. So lets download it again I decided. After a long long time the word DOWNLOAD took me way down into thinking of how incredibly we are connected now, especially at such gigantic speeds. Processing power did increase but it didn't show as much because new softwares and operating systems gobbled up all that processing. So even today, with easier access of operating systems the digital world still feels slow as MS-DOS time processing to me. Yes a lot of codes are crunched and processed in the background but still who cares about them as a consumer?!?! As a consumer I am concerned about what happens in front of me when I give a command via mouse, voice or a keyboard. 

Downloading a 100MB book doesn't seem horrifying today. Infact my everyday uploads of images to stock agencies must be something around 1GB. Download depends upon what I find. But normally I would download around 3-4 GB of stuff if I had the time to find it. My computer is working 23.5 hours a day. It sleeps only for half an hour to cool down, that’s when I wake up. Just 10 years back in 2001, Michael Jackson's Invincible album was about to release. GHOST wasn't still available in India officially. The only way to get it was to download it from somewhere or ask someone in the US to mail it to me. The mailing idea failed so I resorted to finding out sources on the web. The only quality and reliable download I could find was using IRC protocol over a chat host. We used to have a 56.6 kbps line in an internet cafĆ© which was 20kbps more than normal home connections. So considering that speed we needed around 72 or more hours to sit disconnected to download that stuff. Me and my friend did manage to do so with a lot of night time taken care of by my friend. With a failure due to disconnections 

in between, we finally managed to download it one day by keeping the download on for around 4 days. Fortunately the hosts (like seeders we call for torrents today) were co-operative and we got our result.
I am sure than none of us are taking the high-speed connectivity or the increasing storage capacity for granted. I have some different question in my mind. Its not making me anxious nor very excited. Considering the way this connectivity speed, its ways and storage medium increasing and changing are we becoming slaves to the machines even before they are capable of becoming our masters? Its undeniable that we ourselves are powering machines with the intelligence and processing power that will help them overcome their limitations and mainly the dependency on humans. One huge snag in the connectivity like an EMP will struck like a bolt to almost everyone of us who use the internet even for 15 minutes in a day. The tendency to GOOGLE things or WIKI them to find quick answers is shutting down our natural memory capacity because we know that what we search for can be searched for again in a matter of seconds, while remembering it will take a lot of efforts. I am not going to go against this evolution that is inevitable but I can be sure that humans that are capable of storing and processing data without machines will triumph regardless of the failure or success of machines. The digital connectivity does help us reach out to more people than we can handle, but it is also taking out the time and quality we can give to fewer relations. So emotions and relations will be suffering as well. 

How to prepare for this future? I don't think there is any other way than backing up all that data, all those online friends, all the knowledge we acquired in our own brains than relying on systems that don’t belong to us. If even 40% of the online companies providing free services go paid, we will stop using them and feel handicapped for quite much time. Its time to go and take that deep breath outside and still feel connected to the digital and real world!
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Sunday, April 3, 2011

False Prophets Cry of Doom

I Have To Find My Peace Cuz No One Seems To Let Me Be  
False Prophets Cry Of Doom What Are The Possibilities  
I Told My Brother There’ll Be Problems, Times And Tears For Fears,  
We Must Live Each Day Like It’s The Last! 
(Michael Jackson - JAM)

I don't know if it’s a good thing writing this blog, for a person like me who prophesizes or predicts things. With 2012 closing in, the doomsday prophecies have started making headlines again. The latest stupidity was about the two dates 09/11/2001 (911 US WTC) and the latest 03/11/2011 (Japan Tsunami) dates adding together to form the exact doomsday date 12/22/2012. in 2000 When it was the millennium time same kind of prophecies supposedly predicted by Nostradamus were haunting people.  I guess till the ball dropped everyone was quite serious about how and what would happen! An Armageddon a tsunami or what? But times just 10 years back were slow in spreading panic over the globe. What changed now is facebook and twitter, not to mention cheap News channels and web-feeds which support such speculations. A human mind generally likes to embrace such predictions which talk about devastating effect. I don't know if our sub-conscious finds exciting adventures on a imaginative realm or is it something else. Such news fascinate the prophets as well as the rest of the world which accepts them. Even people who deny prophecies do keep discussing these publicly. It’s the fascination like we have for betting for things we believe in. Who will win and who will loose. With our limited intelligence and logics we support or oppose these prophecies, but we become a part of it. We also play the bad game by helping spread them around through discussions like I am myself doing right now. 

Being in the network of so many spiritual people worldwide, I have friends in social networks who deal with all these cosmic things that cannot be explained by science. I am proud to be a part of that world, but I am not proud to know those who are time and again reminding people of such doomsdays when everyone already knows about it. There are some really stupid people calling themselves spiritual talking about normal solar flares as pounding firing from sun to start bad radioactive effects on poor earthlings. See the universe with your eyes. We are just like that dot of a star in the sky or even smaller considering its size. Why does anyone have to think that the doom of a planet, sun or a solar system be so calculated by the cosmos? Won't cosmos have better things to do than planning a destruction of a small planet with life, which is again one of many others hosting life? Is the cosmos primitive than our technology which also has the capability to program destruction which is based on situations (failures of systems) and not time-bound always.  

I wouldn't like to judge the MAYANS for the doomsday predictions because I don't believe that we have been really able to understand their calculations! Is there anything I can do if I know for sure that I am going to die tomorrow? Considering that the earth will be destroyed due to some cosmic calculation shouldn't be my problem as much as my own death should be. Is anyone a messiah or a god to really take care of this problem of saving the world from destruction? If you do want to believe in the doomsday theory then do that by preparing to embrace death peacefully and happily more than creating a panic around! The world that we believed is round and 360 degree sphere with 12 equal parts for time and also constellations is shaken as well. What about the new 13th constellation? Are we seeing 360 degree 3D objects just because the shape of our eyes is limited to see till that level? I would rather say that the MAYANs knew much more than this. Even if we assume that their calculations were perfect we cannot assume to understand their science and maths for sure. We cannot claim to be as intelligent as them because we are believing in a system that we know about very less.  

My own prophecy is that we will live very well through the coming years and  2012 is not a big deal. But for those people who get scared of prophecies from prophets like myself I would say, "If you live to see the dawn of 2013 then stop believing in any doomsday prophecies that you come across. Most importantly stop believing in those spiritual leaders and gurus who are creating a panic again and again for their own benefit using such prophecies!" The destruction of our planet is happening in front of our eyes and with our own hands. We don’t need some cosmic system to destroy us. Again don't start thinking about the radiation leak in Japan. I am not talking about it. Though it’s a dangerous thing happening its not as devastating. There are a lot more calamities and natural disasters to come but life has always won. Even if the dinosaurs were destroyed by an asteroid, life still evolved reaching to a stage which we are in. There is more to learn maybe the machines will take over, the artificial intelligence will take over the natural one.  How does that all matter in this lifetime. The future generations are more intelligent and capable enough to take care of all these problems. Adding a point, I would also say that when we talk about machines being alive we are talking of silicon life unlike carbon based like ours. Recent researches showed non-carbon based lifeforms right on our planet. Maybe there are lifeforms that not all can see, which survive and thrive on other natural resources. 

Lets wake up each day trying to plan what we can do for ourselves and people we care for, regardless of doomsdays or blessings. Finally what we get is what we think and anticipate. If you want to end yourself up so soon... keep calculating the countdown. The rest can join me to live even after any kind of destruction happening around. I am here for a purpose and I won't die till I serve it! :)

Sunday, March 20, 2011

Kalyug? Maybe! For me its just a change!



Meerabai - a saint, a singer, one of the only devotees and lover of Lord Krishna! An icon from Rajasthan and one of the leading saints of the Vaishnava Bhakti Movement. It might be a myth or a reality but her love for Krishna symbolized the ideal love for many of her own followers and Krishna’s. Following ideals is always a big ordeal and suffering from people who pretend to follow is greater ordeal.

Today I prayed to Lord Vishnu, Krishna and Meerabai herself. I asked them to forgive me for what I was going to do next. I knew they would forgive me because they are not judgemental like people are, and they know what I did symbolized something from the weird world that we might call as KALYUG or just some horror changes happening in our lifestyle that are shameful. My step my shock my own supporters, but then I don’t care.

Today I burnt down the idol of Meerabai that I had bought as a symbol of pure love. A love that what we call today as platonic friendship or some shit like that! I had no right to burn her down, I burnt down what I expected in the wrong time. Maybe I burnt down the person or people whom I somewhat felt where like Meerabai. I was wrong doing that because Meerabai was Meerabai, pure and real! No one can really replace someones greatness just like me or any better artist cannot replace Michael Jackson no matter how close they might perform.

The burning down marked a huge change in my life tonight. I burnt down all expectations, ideals and faith in people I force my faith into. Its not about trusting or not trusting someone, but its about knowing that no one is going to be the same person after some time, there are only a few who stay 18 till they die. That was an example, but yes.. there really are people who never change with the influence of society, religion or paternal conditioning.

For people who know me since long, I only had once inspiration for my art or whatever kindness that lives in me for anyone. There was only ONE and I was forced by the society and the religious morals to wipe it off and was left out blank. The flame flickered somewhere and it existed as an inspiration, yet it couldn’t really inspire me anymore. Todays burnt Meera will be my inspiration now to write and compose songs, to click photographs, to make paintings in future and mainly counsel people into believing that someone like Meerabai existed for real, she will exist even now but don’t make the mistake of comparing some living person in a short time with such legendary lives!

P.S for THEFINALMIRACLE users - Life was expected to change in April, but its changing 1 month before. I don’t know how astrologically or as a psychic. But I am happy. I think its changing to create unexpected results which I always end up with! I love my life now!

Thursday, March 3, 2011

Slavery Management

I partially started spiritual counseling and healing since December on www.thefinalmiracle.com/spiritual. That was after a very long break that I again started working on the site till I am ready to launch the site back commercially! Getting back to the point, since my initial sessions since 10 years back till date, I found that there is a lot we all have to do with slavery. 90% of problems around us are our perceptions and those that really exist are due to the indirect service we are providing others without questioning.

The definition of Stable life has become stable income, stable emotions, stable relations and all other stable things of comfort and luxury that keep growing. We are no longer happy with bread, shelter, rest and sex. We want everything in a lavish way. Many want to use a blackberry as a status symbol not even knowing what BB services are really about. If there is an I-Pad then many don’t even know the existence of a tablet thanks to the marketing of apple Inc. Many buy windows computer not knowing that they are only buying a PC with windows loaded in it. Many are working for a an established firm and are not knowing that they are only providing a service that they are capable of. The credit of working in that company is the credit of the owners who made the brand worth buying as well as to be worked for. Many are doing business with esteemed clients and expanding their ventures totally forgetting the peak they really wanted to climb.

No doubt that most of us have become slaves of money and the majority of them will claim that its because of the pressures in life and not to mention the demands put up by ‘loved ones or not so loved ones’. There are unthinkable definitions of stability or what a decent income should be. We have our own cravings and own dreams and we need finance for that too if not for luxury, in that case we are doing something else to finance that dream (like I am doing photography). I do many things which I don’t want to do so I can party on weekends, buy new gadgets or new equipment to support my business and ofcourse to support family. But finally we are not just being slaves of money, we are being slaves to people, systems and even things that are providing us not a good amount but just a dime.

I couldn’t do counseling for 4-5 years blaming on my financial or emotional state of mind. I thought I had a huge responsibility to pay of the loans, have a decent lifestyle and be stable financially. Getting back, I realize I could have been much more stable if I hadn’t done the things for money that I have. It would have kept me in control, kept me fearless against blackmailers and mainly focused on what I wanted to do all this life.
Regardless of the bosses, family or any people that influence and pressure us considering their special authority in our life, we should never forget that if they are demanding things more than they promised to… then they are exploiting us. And slowly whether they want to treat us slaves or not, we start giving them the habit of using their power and authority in a wrong way by behaving like some downbeat slaves. We start providing them with service that we never guaranteed because they have been promising us of a better tomorrow or better relation. The contracts we pull have clear terms and conditions which guarantee our legal stand, but they do not talk about the extra services we provide out of own desire, due to greed. To illustrate this, take an example…

Two friends start a business one as an investor (X) and one who is actually going to work (Y). This understanding is verbal in between these friends. They start the business. Initially Y who is supposed to do all the work insists his investor friend X to bring in some referral clients to get the launching power for their business. X agrees and delivers some contacts on which Y starts working. They initially share the decided profit of 50%. Then Y suddenly realizes that he is doing a lot more job than X is. Despite of knowing the fact of the incapability of being an investor Y starts demanding some more involvement from X. X initially agrees to do some work in hope for the business to increase and hence more profits. Y unknowingly registers in his brain than X has fallen for his earlier complain, so there is more complain coming up of inflation and costs to run the company. X starts getting pressured but is unable to leave the company considering his investment. He has to wait till the investment is returned. 

With new demands from Y for a new office infrastructure, phone lines and equipment to enhance company profile infront of new clients X falls in with investing more money securing loans from elsewhere.  With new loans that have been invested in a company where he had not planned to work X knows that to recover the money he has to invest his efforts, since he is going to loose money not Y. Y starts getting involved in other petty jobs for his extra incomes and starts ignoring his company knowing that X will work anyhow to pay back his loans. X starts getting irritated and decides to settle the issue with Y, the reason he had decided not to work in this company because he had his own existing business to handle. When confronted Y says to X that due to his financial situation X imposed the workload on him taking disadvantage.  Y blames X for negligence and the existing state of the company and has created enough false evidence to prove in the court that X had blackmailed him into the workload commitment using financial power.
In the end X keeps working till his loans are repayed and till he reaches a no profit – no loss situation. Y starts taking the credit for the company’s growth and credibility in the market. X decides to mutually close down the company to avoid future problems.

In the above example, X didn’t just suffer losses due to Y’s intended and non-intended actions. X actually suffered from losing out on his existing business not being able to give it time to support the new one which acted as an extra earning. Though financially X did get cheated and ended in a loss than Y did, what X lost was his confidence, self-esteem and the power to stand up and invest in a new venture with a person who might be better than Y. Though X was in a position to dominate or stay in his own position X fell in for the perks or the hope for more performance and more profits from a venture that was new to him. He got blinded by the quick profits which were due to Y’s skills but failed to understand Y as a person who could change with greed just like X did. 

Did Y win or not would be a stupid question. If X could invest and got cheated, Y’s reputation would surely suffer a backlash in the long wrong from the people they know and of course the people they don’t know that were watching them. Y would never have support or trust from X ever in life. If Y was really unintentional in all his moves, his own guilty conscience will keep him away from asking any favors to X in future. In the other case if Y intended his every move or was adviced by someone to take these steps he is bound to be more confident to cheat the next person he can trap.

The problem with this kind of a story is that we ourselves see it happening everyday around us or with ourselves. Like X we keep our mouth shut, our desires hidden, our risks taken for financial hopes not really calculating what is happening with ourselves as a person. I myself have suffered such situations but fortunately learned to come out of it. If there are people trying to wrongly pressurize you due to their authority or relation, learn to manipulate them into their own trick. Don’t be scared about the blame game they might try to put in public because their supporters will always be people that they just met, everyone else will always know the right/good person. No law can make or break a business/personal relation. So fearing such a law which supports their false allegations makes no sense, if the law is weak enough to support their false allegations it will be weak to support your false allegations too if you plan to make any. 

Life is about a balance. People who take a beating choose to do it blaming it on various causes like I mentioned above. The blaming should be first pointed to us. If someone is accusing you falsely of something try to reflect that accusation back without doing anything false. Be strategically strong and morally right in life, this will save you from the worst punishment of regret or guilt. If someone does hurt you beyond limits and you get fed up with the lies, get back to them by proving their accusations right. For whatever the ways you need to be strong and confident. If you are scared of a system, situation or a person that is making you sad or helpless then there is no way you can ever be happy. Revenge is never preached by saints and preachers, I am just a man…. But I preach revenge. History has proved that Revenge has been the only reason behind huge successes. Revenge also has helped calm down frustrated and angered souls which were tortured by others. Life is about a fight and survival right from the basic stage of evolution. We still carry that reptilian brain within us which serves as the deepest part of our brain. IF we deny our own depth we will perish in the world of morality which is ruled by people having no morals. Don’t rule if you don’t have qualities of a leader, choose to follow.. but don’t ever be slaves to any living being, existing system or definitions of good life created by a society which had the time to define those.